2012 survival of the expectations?h

So, I'm sat here, contemplating the new year, and the old one! 

Every year, around this time people start making their resolutions and talking about how much better the next one will be, but it occurs to me that no one ever seems willing to do much to make it better. It seems people expect to have it better, because they deserve it ~ Is it just my imagination or are people actually that stupid?

The resolutions:

''I'm going to quit smoking'' (no, you will, for like a week)

''I'm going to start going to the gym'' (again, what? for a week?)

''I'm going to lose weight '' (sorry, your gonna have to put the pork pie and cream cake down)

Why are people so centred on fixing the  problems they think they have, without any actual attempt to fix the real issues? If you are overweight, sure, get a diet, hit the gym, but have you tried focusing on your good qualities first? Because all the time you are negative about yourself, your gonna struggle to do the rest, its human nature.

If your so unhappy with your job, hunt around, do a course in your spare time, find a way to better yourself, because spending your days complaining about how much you hate it, is not gonna make a better job fall into your lap. You want to change your life, you actually have to work at it.... The only people on this planet that are ever handed anything on the proverbial silver platter are those who don't need it.

But i truly believe that if you work hard enough to help yourself, the you will get somewhere! 

So stop sitting back, thinking 2012 will be better than 2011... MAKE it better. I can personally say that the last 6 months of 2011 were at times incredibly difficult for me, for a number of reasons, both personal and professional i did not have a great time (let me be clear, that i had some good times, i am stating that generally over the 6 months I had to make some tough choices and face the tough consequences). Due to this I do not expect  2012 to be awesome because i had a bad few months.... Due to this I am going to do everything in my power to improve my odds of a better year, I am doing a course in hopes of increasing my job opportunities, Likewise I am job hunting, constantly. I hope, when I can afford to, I will return to the gym.. until then i find as many little ways to increase my exercises into my daily activities. I am removing the poisonous people from my life, and I am making sure to focus my attentions on my genuine friends, these are the people who have supported me so much in the last few months, who have been there to listen to my shit and make me smile when i needed it, these are the people who matter to me!

So, I make no new years resolutions, because its not a promise i need to make to anyone except myself... So i promise myself, I will do all that is in my power to improve my life, and to positively affect the lives of those i care about in 2012... Maybe you should all do the same, instead of starting the year by pressuring yourself into expectations! 

So I leave you with these thoughts, I say good luck to you, however I also remind you, if it all goes wrong, Don't worry to much.... its only 12 months 'til the apocalypse ;)

human weakness

We are a seriously messed up species...And I personally think we should learn a thing or 2 from the animals.
Really, we are (even the most anti-social of us) a sociable group, and in all honesty, I think that's what screws us up. Our dependency on others is unhealthy, it makes us think all sorts of illogical shit, it makes us weak.
I've seen it in myself, I have seen it in those I care for ~ I have seen how someone allows the person who breaks their heart to be the one they think can fix it, how is this in anyway sane?
The more someone makes you sad, the more you seen to want to turn to them, all I can say to this is What the FUCK?

You should Never allow someone to be your priority, whilst you remain their option, at the end of the day, that's the sort of thinking that will get you in trouble, its what makes you go the extra mile, it makes you think you can get away with silly little things. Ask yourself this; its the zombie apocalypse, your about to go back to save that special someone, your probably going to get bit doing so. Would they have gone back for you? If your answer is an un-doubting yes, then your lucky you have possibly got it sorted, but if there is even the slightest of doubt in your mind, what you should now be asking yourself is,  would you really go back for them? Sadly the answer is probably still yes, that's the human condition, the weakness! But if we don't toughen up, there is no way we will survive.
The animal kingdom will always supersede us, they have mating instinct, they have survival instinct. They do not sit all day pining for the ones they cant have, or focusing on someone who clearly has no time for them... they do what they do and the move on!
Our abilities to feel such intense emotions are really not an asset, they are a death sentence... so why the hell cant we stop ourselves?